Make this promise with me, and pass it on.


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A year ago, one of my best friends and her two boys died in an accidental fire. It seems that food was left on the stove and forgotten, or maybe she thought she turned the burner off, but it didn’t click all the way. Maybe one of her boys bumped it on by accident. We’ll never know, because the smoke alarms that could have saved their lives didn’t have batteries in them. And so Syndea and her boys perished, tragically, in the middle of a chilly Spring night.

I think of them often, and they are missed by so many. I do not judge her for not keeping batteries in her alarms. I know plenty of people, myself included, who have never made it a priority to test and replace the batteries consistently. And what about those who tend to burn what they cook? Who get tired of that alarm going off night after night, seemingly mocking their lack of culinary skills. So they yank the battery out, maybe shove the alarm in a drawer, thinking, “I’m careful. Nothing’s gonna happen here.”

But it can. It can happen, and quickly. Say, on a night when you’re tired after that long shift at work, after caring for your two rambunctious boys all evening, and knowing that you have to be up so very early the next morning. You fall asleep with your oldest next to you, your youngest sleeping in the living room maybe, or perhaps he wanders out there after you’re deep asleep. One way or another, something is left on the stove and it catches fire. And all three of you are gone.

Syndea was a good-hearted person, smart and capable. She simply made a mistake, one that is fairly common. So I’m promising myself that I will test and maintain the alarms in my house, and I’m asking that everyone I know, anyone who reads this, please do the same, and pass the message on. For your families, your loved ones, and for Syndea, Cade and Trevor. <3


Some Thanksgiving Eve Eve thoughts


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17 days of posts before I slacked off – not too shabby. Between book club and spending time with the BF, I just lost focus on my blog posts this weekend. Then last night my laptop’s hard drive warned that a failure was imminent and I should back up my data. Luckily I had done so on Saturday, because when I tried to last night it couldn’t copy my files. Still, I’m determined to finish NaBloPoMo. I’ll be putting the WordPress iPhone app to the test.

Tonight I’m packing and prepping myself, the BF and our two Tasmanian devils pugs for our road trip to Napa. We’re spending Thanksgiving with my family after a few years of staying in Ventura. It’s our first without his dad, and we’ve both been on edge. Being back home with my parents and my brother and sister will help, I think. The last time we were all together for a holiday Robert was with us. He loved my mom’s feast! Rob will be remembered fondly by everyone present this year – I’m so grateful he was a part of our lives.

So! I’ve still got a hundred little things to do before we hit the road at dark o’clock mañana. I hope everyone enjoys these next few days. Don’t let family stress you out, take lots of deep breaths, hug everyone just a bit tighter than you think you should. And let’s be safe out on those roads people, we’re each someone’s precious cargo.

Do You Love Me?



The BF and I have been together for ten years, and we’ve had a lot of fun. He’s convinced me to do things I never thought I would, we’ve had adventures both big and small. But the one thing I’ve not been able to get him to do with me? Dance. We’ve never gone dancing together. And after ten years, I was sure we never would. But that all changed tonight. Ladies and gents, tonight we met up with our awesome friends @dyingechoes and @Sifu_John at a local Chinese restaurant to learn how to swing dance. Yes, really. Somehow I talked him into it and he was encouraged by the knowledge that John, a serious bad ass, would not only be going but actually enjoys dancing.

People, my man can dance. And he loved it. I’m still a little in shock over the whole night. He did the lesson, he paid attention, and when the time came for us to dance together – he amazed me with his confidence and that smile that said Yeah, I can do this. How you like me now, baby? And really, is there anything sexier than a man who is willing to dance with you? I think I fell in love with him all over again. *swoon* I so cannot wait for next Thursday night.

Phoning it in


Between my training session with Sifu John this morning, playing chase with my silly pugs and our Power 90 cardio and abs workout tonight – I am exhausted. I don’t have much energy for anything tonight and it’s difficult to keep my thoughts straight. This is a good thing, I know, but after taking such an extended break from our workouts it hurts getting back into the rhythm. So basically this post is filler. But it still counts. Right? (Ow.)